How can you relax after a stressful day?
No matter how much you love your job, there is going to be some kind of stress involved. Hopefully, you don’t have much, but there will be one of those days where all you can do is stay inside your cubicle so as not to interact with people or put duct tape over your mouth to keep you from saying something you shouldn’t.
I’m fortunate to have a job that I like and my co-workers are great but there are some days when the stress level flies off the charts. When this happens I have found a few go-to things to do to relieve my stress so that I can continue on with my day. I’m not sure where I heard this from, but when my stress is high, I say to myself, “This is just a bad moment in my great day.” When you’re stressed or something bad happens at work, we can easily and quickly spiral out of control, and in a matter of moments, the sky is falling because we’ve allowed ourselves to spiral out of control.
When I say spiral out of control, I’m talking about your thoughts. Does this sound like you?
You: “Ugh! I can’t believe that happened. I’m so stressed!”
You: “This is going to be a crappy day.”
You: “I hate this job. I don’t know why I ever took it.”
You: “I work my butt off and I don’t get paid enough to deal with this crap.”
You: “I’m going to start looking for another job tomorrow.”
You: “I just need something good in my life for once.”
You: “Why do bad things always happen to me?”
Now see, in about 5 minutes you’ve gone from, “I’m stressed,” to “Why do bad things always happen to me?” You’ve worked yourself into a tizzy (that’s Southern for tiff, gotten yourself all wound up). Breathe, my friend. Whatever that moment is if you’re workload is overwhelming you, or you got stuck with a really mean person, it’s going to be okay.
But, you can’t stay in that spot. You can’t stay inside that spiral. You’ve got to slowly work yourself out of it.
What’s a gal to do? Girl, we’re going to get you out of that spiral and on to a happier day!
Here are 7 ways to relax after that crazy, stressful day
Yeah, I know it sounds hokey, but it works. Trust. Take about 5 deep breaths and focus on the breath. I sound like I just got out of a Yoga class, don’t I? But it’s so true. Breathe in deep and breathe out through your mouth. Yes, I do practice yoga, but if you’re focusing on breathing guess what? You aren’t focusing on that stress, really mean person, or overwhelming workload! Deep breathing is such a wonderful way to relax!
Take a lap
At my job, we’ve coined the phrase, ‘go take a lap,’ to mean go take a walk. Get away from those 4 walls that feel as if they are closing in on you. Go outside and walk. Listen to the birds chirping. Stand under the Sun. Jog lightly. Just get out.
Call your husband or friend
Sometimes you need someone to help talk you off the ledge and vent. I often call my husband and say, “I don’t need you to do or say anything. I don’t need you to give me a solution. I just need to vent.” He listens while I vomit all of these words that he has no idea what they mean and as I make up new curse words. Once I’m done, he says, “Do you feel better?” I say, “Yes.”
After that, I’m usually good. Sometimes you just have to get it off your chest.
Talk yourself off the ledge
What if your husband or friends are busy? What do you do? You’re going to have to talk yourself off the ledge. How?
Several years ago, I was watching an episode of Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday. I can’t remember who the guest was, but I remember him saying that the reason people get mad or stressed is that they are somewhere/in a situation they don’t want to be in. It was after watching that episode that I started asking myself 3 questions when I got mad. Do I do this every time? I’d be lying if I said I did. I don’t.
The 3 questions are:
- Can you change anything about the situation you’re in?
- Will being mad/angry change the situation you’re in?
- What are you getting out of being mad/angry?
If the responses to those questions are 2 no’s and a nothing, I move on.
Holding on to things can cause far greater damage mentally and physically so let it go and relax as best you can.
Scream (to relax, not because you’re angry)
It may sound crazy, but screaming can release a lot of stress. On very stressful days, on my way home from work, I let out a good scream, and let me tell ya, I feel so much better. It’s as if I’m releasing the stress of the day out of my body and it’s gone.
It’s called Primal Scream Therapy. My suggestion is that you do this when you’re alone, so like your car, your house, or on a tall mountain hiking. You don’t want people to think that you’ve lost it or scare someone. Developed by Arthur Janov, Primal Scream Therapy in the 1970s. You can read more about this on the Primal Institute website.
Listen to music or exercise
Whether it’s Jazz, Classical, R&B, NeoSoul, Country, Pop, or whatever you like, music has a way of filling your heart with joy! Even better crank up the music loud and have your own dance party or you can just exercise to release the stress. I love a good run when I’m stressed and yoga is one of my favorites too!
You’ll get your blood flowing, get a bit of exercise in and get those endorphins released!
Whether you call a friend for a night out or watch a comedy, laughter does wonders for your mind, body, and soul!
What are some ways that you relax and relieve stress after a crazy workday or workweek?