For the first time, I’m going to be an Aunt. I really hope this child isn’t going to be spoiled, but somehow I think that’s a hope that I might as well move on from. Over the past few weeks, I’ve been helping my Mom a little bit as she plans my sister’s baby shower. I’ve answered questions, given suggestions and feedback (I used to own my own wedding and event planning company) and she also put me in charge of the games. Don’t you just love it when you’re voluntold for something by your Mom?
Our conversations have covered venues, dealing with unexpected guests, invitations, and of course the games I’m chosen. Today, I want to share with you some tips and advice when it comes to planning a baby shower; really, many of these can be used to help you plan any event.
Get everything in writing
Never assume that just because a vendor tells you will get something that it means it is going to happen. Unless it’s in writing, no one is obligated to do anything. As a best practice, if you can’t see it in writing, assume it won’t happen.
Choose a venue based on your guest list
When searching for your venue, it should match your guest list. While it’s unlikely that everyone you invite will attend the baby shower, assume they will. No matter how much you try to avoid it, there will be unexpected additions to the guest list, people who RSVP no, will show up and people who don’t RSVP will show up.
Be careful with A and B guest lists
If you aren’t familiar with A and B guest lists, this is where you send 1 round of invitations with a RSVP deadline and once that deadline is over, you send invitations to round 2 on your guest list. Now, in theory, this may sound like a great idea, but in reality, it can lead to hurt feelings and that’s not what we want!
Having A and B lists can get tricky. People are smart. They know if they are receiving an invitation a week or two before the event, something is awry. People talk. If you send an invitation to Jane a month before and Susan doesn’t get hers until two weeks before, how do you think Susan will feel?
When in doubt, or if you can’t juggle it properly, stick to one list and you don’t have to worry about hurt feelings and losing your sanity because you haven’t done a good job of keeping things organized.
Check with the mother-to-be
A baby on the way is very exciting time! If this isn’t going to be a surprise shower, before making any arrangements, check in with the mother-to-be to find out her likes, dislikes, wants, and needs. Yes, it is wonderful that you’ve taken it upon yourself to plan a shower, check to make sure you all are on the same page. What she has in mind and what you have in mind may be 2 very different things.
Have you planned a baby shower before or had a shower planned for you? What would you add to this list?
See ya later!